Fandral has considered it because social expectations exist, but he hasn't really thought it through. It's an easy assumption that he knows she'd have to be a cool person, honorable, trustworthy, funny, a good conversationalist, and have to get along with his friends. She'd probably have to be pretty as well! However, the obvious set aside, he has 1) avoided thinking about what he wants in a wife and 2) difficulty picturing himself in that lifestyle to form more sophisticated hypotheses.
As his writer behind the scenes and having some godlike knowledge of Fandral's needs, however, I think he basically would be happiest married to someone he can mush the 3 categories (see my answers to Loki's questions above) together into. Whether because of sexism, bad experiences in court, habit/practice engineering beliefs, or a combination thereof, he's made use of stereotypes and templates to protect himself, in courtly games, from emotional harm (as seen in courtly games), and because it's comfortable and makes him happy right now. He doesn't know it and doesn't need to know it, but he'd be crazy for someone he could fight beside, as well as explore space and have lots of interesting sex and make decisions and engaging words with.
I have played characters who ~needed~, on some level, a significant other who could cauterize their emotional damage, or be reliable because they were used to dating selfish bastards, or take them down a peg, or share the same core cultural beliefs, or blah blah blah. Fandral isn't like that, really. Some say you can (or should) be married to your best friend, and that's what would work best for him.
Fandral's family consists of: mom (courtesan) and dad (noble warrior turned military advisor), 1 sister, and 2 half-brothers raised by other moms/families of varying ages (I think he probably had another half-brother who died in battle). They are not close. I think after the initial firestorm of passion, the love burned out of mom and dad's marriage a long time ago, although they're comfortable together and only get nasty/bitter about the infidelity and lack of fulfillment going on when it's rubbed into their faces. They are both fundamentally nice but Fandral gets his catty horrid streak from them and they're substantially worse about it, lacking the good influences Fandral has in his life. They are monstrous in their verbal fights and forget about it a day later. Though he wanted for nothing, Fandral nor any of his siblings got a lot of protection or guidance from them early on.
I figure his siblings are a mixed bag of those who fought against the parent's momentum and who went with it. His baby sister and he aren't close, so I figure she decided fuuuck that bs courtly people are miserable >8( and went ahead to study healing and horticulture with very specific, minor magic, though she possibly has an under-cultivated talent for art. She is not as pretty as Fandral but smarter, and Uror takes care of her. His half-sibs are probably second-tier warriors.
Fandral doesn't talk to any of them much. He'd say it's his fault, but none of them crave for intimacy with one another, really.
OBLIGATIONS: I believe the sense of honor he was brainwashed into does fold into that yes! If someone in Asgard wants for food, vouching for, or gifts, he'd be compelled to generosity about it. We've established our dude/ttes are rolling in it and, despite how he messes around with it sometimes, he doesn't value his material possessions quite as much as many of his peers do. Practical warriors are practical. None of us packed heavy for New Mexico, for ex, not even in the way of comic relief. And we must take care of the little guy!!
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Date: 2012-12-16 12:25 am (UTC)As his writer behind the scenes and having some godlike knowledge of Fandral's needs, however, I think he basically would be happiest married to someone he can mush the 3 categories (see my answers to Loki's questions above) together into. Whether because of sexism, bad experiences in court, habit/practice engineering beliefs, or a combination thereof, he's made use of stereotypes and templates to protect himself, in courtly games, from emotional harm (as seen in courtly games), and because it's comfortable and makes him happy right now. He doesn't know it and doesn't need to know it, but he'd be crazy for someone he could fight beside, as well as explore space and have lots of interesting sex and make decisions and engaging words with.
I have played characters who ~needed~, on some level, a significant other who could cauterize their emotional damage, or be reliable because they were used to dating selfish bastards, or take them down a peg, or share the same core cultural beliefs, or blah blah blah. Fandral isn't like that, really. Some say you can (or should) be married to your best friend, and that's what would work best for him.
Fandral's family consists of: mom (courtesan) and dad (noble warrior turned military advisor), 1 sister, and 2 half-brothers raised by other moms/families of varying ages (I think he probably had another half-brother who died in battle). They are not close. I think after the initial firestorm of passion, the love burned out of mom and dad's marriage a long time ago, although they're comfortable together and only get nasty/bitter about the infidelity and lack of fulfillment going on when it's rubbed into their faces. They are both fundamentally nice but Fandral gets his catty horrid streak from them and they're substantially worse about it, lacking the good influences Fandral has in his life. They are monstrous in their verbal fights and forget about it a day later. Though he wanted for nothing, Fandral nor any of his siblings got a lot of protection or guidance from them early on.
I figure his siblings are a mixed bag of those who fought against the parent's momentum and who went with it. His baby sister and he aren't close, so I figure she decided fuuuck that bs courtly people are miserable >8( and went ahead to study healing and horticulture with very specific, minor magic, though she possibly has an under-cultivated talent for art. She is not as pretty as Fandral but smarter, and Uror takes care of her. His half-sibs are probably second-tier warriors.
Fandral doesn't talk to any of them much. He'd say it's his fault, but none of them crave for intimacy with one another, really.
OBLIGATIONS: I believe the sense of honor he was brainwashed into does fold into that yes! If someone in Asgard wants for food, vouching for, or gifts, he'd be compelled to generosity about it. We've established our dude/ttes are rolling in it and, despite how he messes around with it sometimes, he doesn't value his material possessions quite as much as many of his peers do. Practical warriors are practical. None of us packed heavy for New Mexico, for ex, not even in the way of comic relief. And we must take care of the little guy!!
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