Fandral likes sex for the obvious reasons: pleasure, company, attention, the smug satisfaction of knowing he's good at something and visible, often audible evidence thereof. He expects his sexual partners to do the same. Per comics, he doesn't really understand that he hurts the women he gets with, with any regularity whatsoever. The fact that he only ever sees the vast majority of them once or twice helps!
Actually, per the comics, Fandral at some point finds out he has indeed left a string of broken hearts across the galaxy and swears off his philandering ways! That's a little goofy, I think, but I do think that the reality of that heartbreak has never set in for him. He gets away with wilful ignorance. TBH Asgardian culture has indeed facilitated, at least specifically the behavior promoted at court: sexual liasons, manipulations, deliberately invented drama. Love was reliably false and marriage seemed like an A++ thing to avoid.
Yes he is scared of love, but he isn't aware of it. It's a great thing to not think about! He's a little damaged with that classic psychological content of someone who was sexualized too young, but he's really well-adjusted all things considered. He has the most best friends and no real need for genuine romance... at present. Of course, if Sif ends up with Loki, Thor with Jane, Volstagg with his lovely bride, he might. Figure out some things. Like that he doesn't want to be that weird bachelor living above somebody's garage.
Sexism: I guess there are 3 main categories within women that perpetuate across Fandral's experiences with women. The ones who want to marry you aagh, the ones who just want sex, cool, and Sif (e.g., friends). Fandral probably subscribes to these categories less than he thinks he does-- for ex, if asked why he doesn't chase certain people harder like Valkyrie, Kelda, or even Wanda, he'd explain them away in easy terms that they're looking for other things (mawwage) or their relationship is different (frenship). More than anything, he sees the stereotypes as sort of the template of how he's 'expected' to interact with women. He has never met one who covers more than 1 of them in an overt way, so he doesn't have to deal with a higher level of sophistication than that. Hence it does not freak him out that Amora serves only herself, though they are lovers; and he is entirely sure it would ruin/confuse everything if he and Sif ever became anything more. Neat boxes.
It's worth noting Sif was really the breakthrough in terms of him recognizing women as real people, with flaws and strengths and quirks, rather than objects of desire. Prior to becoming her close friend, he really only had the other 2 categories which essentially = stereotypes. While he has some half-siblings running around, she was his first close lady friend and he loves her dearly.
If we went out on a date, we'd probably break into the throne room while Odin was busy with sers bzns elsewhere and make out/give you a blowjob on the high chair because I think you would be into that PROBABLY then find something big to kill/catch together and talk about new spells like some Patronus bullshit or imbuing objects, a bunch of other sex. Fandral doesn't date, but he would probably be reasonably considerate/thoughtful and good (?) at it if he did. like. if he didn't hate you <33
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Date: 2012-12-15 08:33 am (UTC)Fandral likes sex for the obvious reasons: pleasure, company, attention, the smug satisfaction of knowing he's good at something and visible, often audible evidence thereof. He expects his sexual partners to do the same. Per comics, he doesn't really understand that he hurts the women he gets with, with any regularity whatsoever. The fact that he only ever sees the vast majority of them once or twice helps!
Actually, per the comics, Fandral at some point finds out he has indeed left a string of broken hearts across the galaxy and swears off his philandering ways! That's a little goofy, I think, but I do think that the reality of that heartbreak has never set in for him. He gets away with wilful ignorance. TBH Asgardian culture has indeed facilitated, at least specifically the behavior promoted at court: sexual liasons, manipulations, deliberately invented drama. Love was reliably false and marriage seemed like an A++ thing to avoid.
Yes he is scared of love, but he isn't aware of it. It's a great thing to not think about! He's a little damaged with that classic psychological content of someone who was sexualized too young, but he's really well-adjusted all things considered. He has the most best friends and no real need for genuine romance... at present. Of course, if Sif ends up with Loki, Thor with Jane, Volstagg with his lovely bride, he might. Figure out some things. Like that he doesn't want to be that weird bachelor living above somebody's garage.
Sexism: I guess there are 3 main categories within women that perpetuate across Fandral's experiences with women. The ones who want to marry you aagh, the ones who just want sex, cool, and Sif (e.g., friends). Fandral probably subscribes to these categories less than he thinks he does-- for ex, if asked why he doesn't chase certain people harder like Valkyrie, Kelda, or even Wanda, he'd explain them away in easy terms that they're looking for other things (mawwage) or their relationship is different (frenship). More than anything, he sees the stereotypes as sort of the template of how he's 'expected' to interact with women. He has never met one who covers more than 1 of them in an overt way, so he doesn't have to deal with a higher level of sophistication than that. Hence it does not freak him out that Amora serves only herself, though they are lovers; and he is entirely sure it would ruin/confuse everything if he and Sif ever became anything more. Neat boxes.
It's worth noting Sif was really the breakthrough in terms of him recognizing women as real people, with flaws and strengths and quirks, rather than objects of desire. Prior to becoming her close friend, he really only had the other 2 categories which essentially = stereotypes. While he has some half-siblings running around, she was his first close lady friend and he loves her dearly.
If we went out on a date, we'd probably break into the throne room while Odin was busy with sers bzns elsewhere and make out/give you a blowjob on the high chair because I think you would be into that PROBABLY then find something big to kill/catch together and talk about new spells like some Patronus bullshit or imbuing objects, a bunch of other sex. Fandral doesn't date, but he would probably be reasonably considerate/thoughtful and good (?) at it if he did. like. if he didn't hate you <33
terrified i will lose this comment if i don't save now, so PRESSING POST